In the immediate aftermath of a funeral, support often pours in – cards, flowers, and kind messages. But grief doesn’t have an expiry date. For many people, the hardest part begins months later, when everyday life resumes for others, but their world remains changed.
Why Ongoing Support Matters
Psychologists note that grief can intensify around three to six months after a loss, when initial support fades and reality sets in (Stroebe, Schut & Boerner, 2017). This is often when people feel most alone, despite still needing care and connection.
How You Can Help
- Stay Connected.
Simple gestures like checking in, sharing a meal, or sending a note on a birthday or anniversary can mean everything. Don’t assume someone is “over it” because time has passed. According to a UK study, 86% of bereaved people report feeling alone in their grief—particularly as time goes on (Sue Ryder Foundation, 2020). - Be Present Without Pressure.
You don’t need to fix anything. Just being available to listen, without judgment or expectations, offers profound comfort. - Encourage Remembrance.
Anniversaries, holidays, and milestones can bring a fresh wave of grief. Acknowledge these days with empathy and openness.
How Hillier’s Funeral Service Supports the Journey
At Hillier Funeral Service, our care extends well beyond the funeral itself. We understand that grief doesn’t end with a ceremony, and neither does our support.
- Free Bereavement Support: We offer access to professional counsellors and trained volunteers who provide emotional support, whether it’s been weeks or years since the funeral.
- Community Connections: Our “New Beginnings” programme includes regular lunches, evening support groups, and social outings designed to foster connection and ease loneliness.
- Annual Remembrance Service: Every autumn, we host a special service where families can reflect, remember, and feel supported among others who understand.
- Open-Door Approach: Many of our clients drop by months later just for a chat or a cup of tea. We welcome these moments, because healing takes time.
This aligns with national guidance recommending bereavement care that lasts up to and beyond a year (Hospice UK, 2018).
Final Thoughts
Supporting someone after a loss doesn’t require grand gestures. It’s the continued presence, the remembered dates, and the quiet companionship that truly help someone move forward. At Hillier Funeral Service, we’re committed to walking that longer journey with every family we serve.